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Did this doctor come on to me?


Posted: Jun 7, 2011

I have been having hand and wrist problems and needed to go in for a nerve conduction study.  The doctor who performed it is very attractive, charismatic and intense.  I'm not a flirt at all, lol, in fact rather stoic and more on the intellectual side (if you want to call it that, i'm just the extreme opposite to charismatic). 

So, he tells me to lay down on the table, and sort of said it with an embarrassed smile.  I could tell he was embarrassed to say that.  No big deal for me as I have had nerve conduction studies in the past so I know what to do.

He tells me he normally does not perform them, but lets his assistant do all of them, as he has more important priorities (basically saying he made the exception for me).  He is very chatty, talking nonstop and even fumbling over his words.  At one point he said something to the effect "I don't know why I am so nervous and flustered right now" again with the embarrassed smile.  I was thinking it was because I was being stoic and unreadable, so I decided to get involved and animated with the conversation.

He looked at my ring and asked what my husband does, talked about television, talked about how much money he has (um ok) asked me my ethnicity, if I had children, talked about his, asked what I am going to school for.  Just a bunch of personal questions, that came rushing in like a flood, I could not keep up.  I soon got wrapped up in the conversation willingly because of his charisma, and I was laughing and we had a connection when he finally hit on a subject that interested me.  (The Showtime program Curb Your Enthusiasm). 

He said he is not normally at this office, but at a different one, and said to come and see him at that office.  In other words, it seemed like he wanted to make plans for me to come see specifically him, and at a future date without even knowing the test results or if I would need to.

So this entire time, he is not focused on what he is doing with the test, he was shaking and having a hard time with the mechanics, the leads were falling off and again he said "I do not know why i'm so shaky right now" and the shy boyish smile. 

So he needs to get the other hand, and this is where I think I clued in that he was coming on.  The table was against the wall, so he could only get to one side at a time.  His exact words were "we're all done, your going to have to turn over, unless you want me to get on top of you" then he peered at me for a reaction.  I was a little nervous and as I said i'm not the flirty type so I just made a frown face.  Then I steered the topic toward my husband (he got quiet at this point and not enthusiastic to talk about him at all) , how he loves the nature channel, Discovery  channel, etc. 

I felt like he was flirting, and I felt a little bit woozy and charmed I must admit, but that is somewhere that I will never go with another man.  I even hate to flirt, but he drew me in.  Also, he called me on my cell phone at one point, which I feel is odd for a doctor to do, no reason but to see if I wanted to schedule an ultrasound next.  My husband was right there, and he could tell I was giddy and surprised when this doctor called, and I could see the hurt on his face.

Am I overthinking this?  The vibe felt flirtatious to me.

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Flirting - Candy

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Sounds like you already know the answer to your questions.

he was probably - AARPMom

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not very skilled at the technique of the test, so covering it over with something he was good at (flirting) made him feel better. JMHO

I was thinking the same thing. (nm) - MT Wordz

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Flirting, Anyone? - Cashmere

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When a man flirts with me, he's probably flirting with a bevy of others. Flirting is his personality, his communication style with women...and I'm merely the next one standing in line (or, in your case, lying on table).

Enjoy the encounter for what it is: a good-looking, charismatic man trying to "break the ice" with a self-admittedly stoic woman. Consider the alternative: being stuck in a room with a doctor who is serious, stern, and taciturn, with furrowed brow. That's like being in church; you want to giggle.

Flirtation is only what you want it to mean, and flirtation will lead you only where you are willing to go.

I'm assuming you are/were an MT. Think of all the arduous dictation that you've transcribed. Maybe that sweet encounter with Dr. Charisma is your karma.

PS: Maybe you'll receive a discount on your bill!

I'm a flirt. - I can't help myself.

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I am incredibly happily married to a man who is a huge flirt, as well. Sometimes, I get a little jealous when he flirts and sometimes he gets a little jealous, as well, so we have to watch it some. When I flirt, it is completely harmless. Sometimes people take it the wrong way. I don't have any idea if this doc was hitting on the OP, only he knows, but I enjoy flirting and it makes me feel good, so I doubt I'll be stopping anytime soon. :D

so true - sm

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I figured i'm not the only one he has used his charm on, as he was a natural. But I did enjoy it for what it was worth, even though I did not get pulled all the way in. I am sure he has women of all kinds swooning over his looks and personality, and maybe the challenge is what got the flirtation to that level.

Regardless, I do not mess with flirting, I just got sucked into this one because we were stuck in a room together for over an hour. Flirting is like playing with fire, you never know who is doused in gasoline and could possibly make an innocent situation burn up into ash. LOL sorry for the lousy metaphor.

The doctor's behavior was extremely unprofessional. - sweetgirlsmom

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He asked several personal questions about you and your family which had nothing to do with your treatment, and talked extensively about TV shows, etc. It is flattering when someone shows a strong interest in our lives. He was just warming you up. Discussions about a doctor's personal life and his income are off limits with a patient. He wasted much of your time and may have kept other patients in the waiting room longer than necessary. His staff may have had to work overtime.

Doctors see thousands of patients a year and many are in hospital beds. They are not embarrassed by asking someone to lie down. He knows darn well how to handle the equipment without fumbling. The fact that he overdid it shows that it was deliberate. Being unsure about the exam was designed to elicit your sympathy and make you feel safe in his presence. That brings him down from an authority figure to an ordinary person. If he is your equal, you will respond to his attention. The invitation to his "other office" is a sexual innuendo (meaning a hotel). Nervous laughs and boyish smiles are very seductive. His comment about getting on top of you was overtly sexual and totally wrong.

This is not an innocent flirtation. He came on to you when he was in a position of trust and authority. He had the upper hand and used you for his personal amusement. Some men brag to other men about their sexual exploits and try to outdo each other. He will tell them how easy you are and they will have a good laugh at your expense.

Some doctors used to treat nurses and female patients like this all the time. Men in all kinds of jobs used to make suggestive comments to women. I remember hearing things when I started working in the 1970's. Finally we called it what it is (sexual harrassment) and made it illegal in the workplace. You consulted a doctor for medical care and he was working. He broke the law big-time and also violated professional ethics. Patients are especially vulnerable because they remove their clothes and the doctor touches their body. He manipulated your emotions and abused your trust.

You were giddy and surprised when the doctor called, and then saw the hurt on your husband's face. That should tell you how inappropriate the doctor's behavior was. This doctor hurt your marriage and you owe your husband an apology. I would report this doctor to the medical board and consider other action. He did it to you and may do it to others. He needs to be stopped.




''Extremely unprofessional''--Good post. Absolutely right. - evonneinfla

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You are absolutely right. To be paid this kind of attention and treated in a less-than-respectable manner is nothing to be flattered about. It's an insult. And what an awkward spot for the poor husband. If the doctor is not reported, at the very least it would be a very poor idea to ever use him again.

You share some of the blame. - TentEvent

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It doesn't sound like you did anything to discourage him. You even admit you liked his attentions. Don't make this all his fault because you now feel guilty.

are you kidding me? - sm

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Did you see the part where I frowned and brought up my husband in the conversation? Don't be jealous and judgemental.

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