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BF best friend is a woman

Posted: Jun 18, 2010

Really I have never felt so insecure about anything like this before. I'm usually the laid back person. I was cheated on in my last relationship and I think that changed everything for me. Anyways, I have been seeing this guy and we are about to move in together on the 22nd actually. His best friend is a girl. In fact he has had this friend for so long, even through his ex-wife. His best friend never liked his ex. I really have never met this woman and he hasn't really been talking to her everyday that I know of. This morning he said that he ran into her at the hospital and they talked for a bit and she hugged him. Now why does that bother me? Its just a little hug. She is about to have a baby for god sakes! Why can't I get a grip?

Anyways, I want to know what you guys think. I have been out of the dating thing way too long that I have resulted to google for relationship advice! That's kind of sad! Believe me I will probably post more stuff on here as the time goes by!

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to me that is a big red flag - I assume she is married

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but it's still very unusual and weird to me. I would have a big problem with this kind of relationship.

Please be careful if you are seriously considering moving in together. I would hate to see you get hurt once again.

His BF - oldMT

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Don't move in with him. Keep your lives separate and just enjoy good times and your individual freedom. That way, if you choose, you can have a guy friend as your BF. Wonder how he would take to that one? Give him a dose of his own medicine. Guaranteed, he would not like it one bit.

to me too. Is this BF married? - huh?

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nm

As some other posters said, it's no big deal. - Backwards Typist

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Growing up, there were 3 girls living on my block and 6 guys. My next door neighbor (a guy) and I were best buddies. We went everywhere together. Went fishing, caught tadpoles, raised fishworms, went to the store, hiking and earned money selling peanuts. His family moved to NJ in his junior year and both of us were heartbroken that he was leaving.

Thanks to the internet, I found him 5 years ago. He came for a visit, well, he, his wife, and his mom came right after that. Turns out he married a girl who was also from my town but had moved to NJ, too. Also, she happened to be a friend of DH when they lived two doors apart. How's that for coincidence?

Anyway, they come to visit often and we are trying to find time to visit them. When they do come here, we hug each other and we all talk about the good ole days, as do DH and my buddies wife. My buddy doesn't like the internet so his wife and I chat all the time.

Get to know her. She might just clue you in on your BF's likes, dislikes, etc. May even tell you some good stories. She might turn out to be a good friend.

but he is NOT your BEST buddy, he is one of your buddies - nm

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nm

I totally disagree with the other replies - sm

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He knew this girl before he knew you, why should you get to choose who his friends are? I think if YOU have a problem with it then it is YOUR problem. If you can't get over it then maybe you should move on. Just because he has a girl friend doesn't mean that it will ever be anything more. He had his chance before he met you, if he wanted to be with her he would have. I have had lots of male friends over the years who I was not at all attracted to, but because my husband wasn't comfortable with it I chose to let those friendships go. He continues to be jealous, and it is a huge roadblock in our relationship even now.

His relationship with you is a totally seperate entity than his friendship with her. If I were you I would not feel threatetened, the fact that he told you they hugged is a good thing, he is being up front with you and not trying to keep anything behind your back. If you come out and freak over it, then he will either 1) stop being her friend and resent you for it or 2) stop telling you things.

Neither one is a good situation, IMO.

p.s. - sm

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You should offer to meet her, maybe you will actually like her and end up friends. Maybe the fact that you don't know her is the problem...

Very wise words indeed - anon

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It does not mean squat that she is a woman. She is his friends. Woman and men can be friends without having a relationship together. And you are right on...they were friends before the OP met him.

No big deal to me.

Question - Just wondering

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Since it is a normal thing for friends to hug when they run into each other, why did he even bring that up? Not saying anything is going on, but that seems strange that someone would make a point to even mention it.

why must our friends be same gender? - way more guy friends

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I'm the youngest of 7 in my family and the only girl. I was very close with my father. I had a difficult relationship with my mother. I think all of those things have led me to have far better relationships with males than with females. Most of my friends are men, to the point that I've even taken week-long backpacking trips with groups of men and have been the only female on the trip. My husband stays home, because he hates being in the woods. I have one close female friend, my best friend, of 30 years. I have other female friends, but with them there is always some drama being stirred up. The guys are straightforward, funny, and easy to be with. Over the years, there have occasionally been issues with girlfriends and wives who seem to think that I'm after their men. I let the men handle the situation, and only once that meant our friendship had to come to an end. So be it.

I will admit it's rare, but sometimes men and women are good friends. Just good friends. I love my husband. We love being together, and he's the only serious relationship I've ever had in my entire life. But, frankly, I just don't prefer the company of women.

I understand why you may feel threatened, but every person is different. Get to know your BF's friend. If he's been friends with her all this time, then you really should get to know her, because she is part of his life. He shouldn't have to rearrange his friendships because you are uncomfortable.

re: unsure - imo

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I know how horrible insecurity feels. You were cheated on in your last relationship and I'd bet anything that every little thing raises a flag for you know. I know because I've been there. I really know what you're feeling. I was married in a horrid relationship with a serial cheater for 13 years! It took me 2 years after we met to move in with my current hubby, AND I almost blew it within 6 months for accusing him of cheating because he has/had female friends. I could not and would not believe a man could be faithful.

That aside, consider that you're getting ready to move in together and you've never met the BF?... Hmm. Why is that? If I were you, and want to take this relationship seriously, arrange a meeting! Tell your squeeze that if this person is important to him, you really want to meet her!

Oddly enough, my son had a steady girlfriend all through high school. They broke up (mutual) in their senior year with plans to go off to college... Long story short. He is married, has been for 6 years and the old GF is still very involved in all of our lives, as a "daughter" to me and my current husband, a best friend to my daughter, and also to my son, her former boyfriend, and his wife and their son. She, in fact, was the "best woman" at their wedding. The old GF is also married and my son was in her wedding as well.

I guess what I'm trying to say, is that is possible that it is a true "friendship" and nothing romantic.

Best wishes in your quest for peace and balance in your life. You'll get there. I truly believe this because I was like a wild hurricane of emotions and mistrust and if a crazy woman like me can be made to believe, love and trust again, anyone can!

I thought that, too - Best Friend?

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I was in that situation of supposedly having a serious relationship with a man, and yet although hearing constantly about his best friend I had never met him. I have a rule. If I'm not part of a person's most personal life I seriously question what is really going on, or not going on. Just my opinion, but I know in my case what I was seeing wasn't really happening at all.

Agree. I am friends with my college (ex)boyfriend - sm -

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We did not talk for a couple years after college as he started dated my BF our senior year (we broke up the year before) and she couldn't handle us being friendly so that was a lull for a bit. They married the Fall after we graduated and divorced a few months later. We reconnected about a year after that. We never "rekindled" though we had the opp to do so, neither one of us wanted to as we knew we were better friends. I even visited him for his 30th B-day party at his parents as he wanted me to come and meet his GF. I was dating my future DH at the time, I don't think he was thrilled with me going but he did not kick up a fuss. He was not able to go with me as he had a guest visiting that weekend from Japan, so ditching his friend was not an option. But we stayed in touch, and he eventually moved closer to where I lived and moved in with a new GF, I again went to meet her with my 2 kids in tow (married 4 years at this point). She did not take kindly to the meeting as we are similar in looks, and the fact that I was his first serious GF (and first in other areas)and again our contact fizzled out a bit. We keep in touch now with FB and the odd email here and there. They live in CA now so she could be near her mom, and I am on the east coast (where all his family is), so I am sure she is happier now. I never post any thing inappropriate and always ask how she is doing, etc. We have NEVER crossed the line, either one of us as we don't think of each other that way, not since college. We became too much like brother and sister in the end, which was one reason for our breakup, there were other factors but we always felt a firm bond. I have had several guy friends with whom I have never had a sexual relationship with. One good friend and I actually tried to date once one time when we were both single but it was just too weird for us and we just have stayed friends as well. So he has a friend that is a girl, who cares. He is being open with you, so don't get all crazy on him. He has chosen you to be with, live with, and presumably marry some day. So don't sweat it.

hugging and going to have a BABY??? - what?

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I hope she is married or has also other "boyfriends."

You did not mention if she is in another relationship.

A man-woman relationship that lasts that long, believe me, INCLUDES sex, even it it is only off and on.

His best girlfriend - oldMT

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All of the above is fine and dandy but at the end of the day, a woman has to trust her gut feeling about a situation such as this. If something does not seem right, don't commit.

No, it really doesn't. - Happy MT Robin

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I cannot believe how suspicious we are of our own gender, or how mistrusting we are of our potential mates.

I get that OP has issues from her past, I reall do, but girl, you need to go to therapy to work on that. How long have you known this guy that you're thinking about moving in with? Maybe you need to rethink that part of it. Have the friend over for dinner or lunch or something. Get to know her. If he's been friends with her for that long, chances are you will like her, too.

To the above poster, you're sadly mistaken if you think a man/woman relationship that lasts that long HAS to include sex. My sister's best friend for the past 30 years has been a male and no, they haven't done that. I have male friends that I've had for 10 or more years and we haven't done that, either. People from opposite genders can indeed be just friends.

Only if something is not right with their hormones, - sm

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or both o 1 of them is physically not attractive.

Depends what you consider "a BEST friend."

what kind of a relationship is this? - sm

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It outlast an ex-wife?

OP did not even mention if this BF is married or has "another" boyfriend. Imagine she is not and has not, and she hugs this man, he is probably the father.

How can somebody be that naive. I wouldn't like this BF "hovering" around and I would not like to meet her. I would tell this man, "it"s me or her!
I do not like threesomes."

Seriously??? - sm

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You know next to nothing about this situation and that is what you can come up with?

I feel really sorry for your husband (if you have one)

How much do YOU know about this relationship? - sm

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As much as I do. So spare your wisecracks and sh*t up!

It is possible to stay friends with former friends, but not BEST friends!

He should be BEST friend with his current girlfriend he wants to move in with.

I really think that a lot of people who did not object to this continuing BEST friend relationship are simply "blind" and are those who then say,..."omg, I would NEVER have thought of THAT! How could I have been so blind!"

The gravity lies on BEST.
What are these 2 BEST friends actually doing? (Besides) being soul mates?
He should be soulmate with his present girlfriend! If not, it is not right right from the beginning.

Do all your spouses have BEST girlfriends on the side?

Did your husband only marry you with the condition that - huh

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his BEST lifelong girlfriend MUST be part of it?

re: sm what kind of relationship - Xamantha

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What an insecure, probably domineering, suspicious, easily threatened, jealous woman you must be!

Why would you issue an ultimatum before even getting all the information, Evaluating the friendship and talking about it like a grown up.

"It's me or her" is ridiculous.

Do you have a shock collar around you man's neck to ward off possible hugs from friends? haha!

In our family, hugs are standard. Kisses too.

~later

Are you living in a commune? Most probably - growing horns?

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being lesbian or even bisexual, etc....

Anything goes with you!
It is mirrored in your screen name, Xamantha, eeewww! Troll would be better.

Yes, for me it is::

"It's me or her."

I do not share.

I would only accept 1 BEST Friend besides me: His MOTHER. The Focus is on BEST, it seems that you did not "get" it yet.

This conversation with you is OVER for me since you are a TROLL, soon you will be growing HORNS, hahaha!

re: growing horns - Xamantha

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So, the description DOES in fact fit. You prefer a "mommy's boy". I guessed that. Homophobic as well obviously. Whatever Ms. "Happy". I pity your husband or man.

since when is a man whose best friend besides his - to the tr...

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wife is his respected MOTHER a "mommy's boy?"

This statement gave you away.

You have it all wrong, but I guess that you live in another world....the eeewww world!

ah jeez Edith .... - nm

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nm

what's up with Edith? Who is she? - ?

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nm

Agree with you, lots of insecure, controling, suspicious -sm - ECMT

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women here. We are on the same wavelength...I mentioned the implanted locator chip behind the neck...LOL, shock collar is funny too.

My BF's best friend is a woman he has known for - jk

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25 years. They never dated, he has been there for her with her divorce, current BF/now husband etc., she with him through his divorce and with all the problems that go along with those. She is now also one of my best friends. In the beginning I was worried (we have been together 10 years now), but I realize they are friends only. I have several guy friends that I am a lot closer to than my girlfriends. One can be friends and friends only with the opposite sex. Like you said, you cheated in a previous relationship so I believe that is the root of your trust issues.

You know up front they are friends, have been friends forever, and he did not "hide" from you the fact he ran into her, she hugged him, etc. I don't see a problem.

Best friend - shayla

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My best friend is a man. We have known each other since childhood, never dated, never kissed, never considered any romance. He is my best friend and I love him. He and I have been through thick and thin, marriages, relationships, divorces, deaths...

My husband never has felt threatened by this friendship, and loves my friend too. I love my friend's wife as best friend and sister as well.

My suggestion to OP is to meet this person, ask questions if you are uncomfortable about the relationship and get a better feeling of what it is exactly.

My friendship with this man has never made anyone unconfortable or threatened. I love this person as if he were my family and he feels the same. We are, and I believe will always be in each other's lives .

poo poo to all people who do not believe that a deep friendship is possible with the opposite sex. pure, real, friendship.

why didn't you marry if you "love" him to death. It must be one-sided - excuse me?

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and do you wish for more with him?

Do you wish you were his wife and keep him THEREFORE in your life until you die?

Really WEIRD, that's all I can say to this strange story.

re: it must be one-sided - excuse me - Shayla

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You make me laugh! You must be those jealous women that like to keep their men beat down.

Why didn't we marry? Because we are friends, not lovers. Never been lovers. Never had a relationship that way. I thought I made that clear.

and to the others, no he is not my father, uncle or brother. silly girls.

Such suspicion and bitterness. You all must be so proud of your narrow mindedness and anger. You are ugly people no doubt, and I mean inside.

toodles! My bestie and his wife had a lunch date. I'll be sure to send him all your regards!

Enjoy your lives of looking down your noses at people and deluding yourselves into thinking you all "know it isn't so" because you never had it happen for you. bitter, spinsters.

I can only say 1 word, like the other poster: Commune and Hippies! - nm

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nm

re: nm - lnw

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Your brilliance is evident. That's 3 words...

don't talk about my brilliance - you poor thing / sm

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it is

THESE are 3 words, hahaha!

ROFLMAO!

only possible without physical attraction - nm

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nm

you must be talking about your father, uncle, or brother - sm

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Are you in an "arranged" marriage?"

I cannot believe this naivity and how can you - oh, please

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be so SURE that they were never intimate in this 25 years?

What else would bind them together for 25 years? Please do not come with "platonic relationship," "soulmate stuff," "adviser capacity," etc.....

I will only believe this sexless BEST
man/woman relationship besides a husband or boyfriend, if the age difference is 30 years, and not even this is guaranteed.

Boy sure are a lot of suspicious women out there - sm - ECMT

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makes ya wonder. Guess the lot of you have never just been friends with a guy but had to fowl it up by sleeping with him, hence you are no longer friends and so the friendship died as he got his piece of *** from you. Lots of bitterness here. Why can only women be BF with other women? Does that make them lesbians or wanting to have sex with one another too? Seems pretty narrow-minded to think that a man cannot have a friend who is a woman. If he has ever had sexual thoughts about her (and I am sure he did at some point, human nature for a guy) they most likely were never acted on, she just may not see him that way. You seem to be saying a woman cannot be friends with a man without wanting to have sex with him, etc. I have had plenty of male friends of whom I have absolutely no attraction to physically let alone the urge to sleep with them, or break up their marriage (and my own). -----So the guy has a BF who is a woman, now if they hung out constantly, talked constantly, texted constantly, etc then maybe she'd have something to worry about but as she posted he'd not seen/talked to her in a while, so obviously they are not joined at the hip like some are to their BFs (regardless of same sex or opposite sex). I say it is not a big deal. If he wanted her he would have gone after her a long time ago, I am sure they have had the opp to do so many, many times and if they have not dated, etc by now it is not gonna happen. Enjoy your new chapter of life with him by living together. That is a big step and obviously he cares about you or he would not be doing it. Chill out some and smell the roses.

How many BEST FEMALE friends can a man have? Only ONE, his wife or partner! - hippies!

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nm

a man can have female friends, better said - laissez faire

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acquaintances, but not BEST ones.

With your "laissez faire" it is no wonder that the divorce percentage in America is 50%.

All these female, BEST friends, sooner or later putting horns on you.....with your inviting facilitation and quiet permission.

Can you keep track on him and his BEST friend 24/7?

You two are nuts - sm - ECMT

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so I guess you lock yourself away and have utterly no men friends as you are just convinced you will sleep with them (--doesn't say much about your own self-control --or at the very least they will want to sleep with you). There has to be some degree of trust in a healthy relationship, obviously the two of you must have locater chips on your husbands, whatcha do implant them behind their neck like they do with dogs? Have video and audio too so you can track his every move and make sure he is not talking with any women? If he does look or talk to a female do you cut him off for a month as punishment and be punitive? Only insecure women cannot handle their SO having a female as a good friend, or talking or working with other women. Again, if he was spending all his spare time with this said BF then yes, that would not be good, but as in this case, this guy (to her knowledge) do not see or talk to often. I am sure if she snooped she could confirm this one way or the other, but if he catches her that will not be good either but as women are more sneaky and devious than men, and calculate everything, whereas men are just not that bright for the most part, she should be able to pull of some spying if she is so freaked out and worried. Have a women as a BF does not mean he is screwing her... your attitudes does not say a lot for women does it?

how can a man call a woman with whom he has - sm

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scarcely contact call

HIS BEST FRIEND?

To call somebody BEST friend, even if he has not constantly contact, there must be more to it.

He will not tell his current girlfriend that he sees her daily.

This is my point, don't you understand?

All this denial of being jealous and watchful is the cause for the 50% divorce rate.

Women who say:
"Well, he can do whatever he wants, talk to women, flirt with women, etc, does not matter to me, I trust him, he loves me, etc....This other woman is no threat to me, I am so superior..."

fall down from their horse with horns on their head.

only blah, blah....

re: sm - ysl

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TAKE YOUR MEDS AND YOU'LL STOP SEEING PEOPLE WITH HORNS!

Live and let live. Agree to disagree. LET IT GO.

What's with the horns anyway? Anyone want some NUTS!?

Horns & nuts - see message inside

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You are a creepy person and your comments are very vitriolic and insulting. If you disagree with my posts, don't read them.
Why are you are trolling me?
Why do you reply to every of my posts?

YOU have to LET GO! Of my posts.

Who are you? Are you somebody from the forum's staff? Male or female?

I do not take any meds, only once a month some aspirin.

English lesson for you:

To "put horns on somebody" means "being cheated on."

How come that you are not familiar with this expression. Is English your 1st language?

I am not "seeing" horns everywhere (or "nuts" as you suggest in your ignorance), it is an expression for "being cheated on."

Didn't you know that, you poor thing.

My advice: Let my posts GO, do NOT reply.

well, it sure also depends HOW this BEST friend is looking!! - no mess

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nm

be careful, it might be that they are looking for a - no

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handy babysitter, in case this best BF is not married.

RE: UNSURE - yts

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I think a talk with him is long overdue since you are about to move in together.

Postpone the move until you are at peace with your decision. Ask very direct questions, settle for no evasive answers. Ask especially what this person's involvement in your new relationship will be and why she didn't like his ex especially.

Then arrange a meeting for sure. Lay your cards on the table with both of them regarding your insecurity and concerns and what your boundaries are.

For sure, don't move in together until you're positive and no longer feel conflicted. That in itself is a bad sign.

moving in with him? No, that's not a good idea at all. - sm

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Tell, not ask, him to marry you, first.

How long do you know him?

That his BEST girlfriend did not like his ex says a lot. Why should she? He married his ex, but not her!

Now it's your turn: I would agree to meet her, only to tell her, "Get lost!"

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I was reading a post on the political board which is not a political issue and got me to wondering... If you saw a man, woman (child highly unlikely), laying on the street bleeding to death, or even just down, would you call 911 or do anything to help this person. I believe most people would. The poster said otherwise. I'm just curious if you would offer assistance, call 911, or whatever. ...

Oct 16, 2011
For your Tropicale Muffins do you use crushed pineapple in heavy syrup or in its own juice? ...

Aug 23, 2012
Another by flip flopper (liar) in chief ...

Sep 03, 2012
Just shaking my head. Lie, cheat, kidnap delegates on buses to keep them from getting back to a rules committee vote, and assault. Apparently, the GOP is willing to stoop to anything to defeat Obama. http://www.capecodtoday.com/blogs/index.php/2012/09/02/massgop-lawyer-vincent-devito-assaults-w?blog=119 ...

Oct 20, 2013
I was reading the post on the Gab Board about the person asking how to get trust back in her partner. I was amazed to see that a person on here was guessing about "the one with the 2 girls for summer." Were you not ever told not to assume things? This is the person with the 2 girls for the summer, so you put it. The person writing about the trust issue is not me. I have no trust issues with anyone, certainly not my husband. I have no idea why coming on this board and asking the most simple o ...

Oct 27, 2016
A Woman's view on Trump There is an old rock and roll song by Stealers Wheels. One of the lines is "Clowns to left of me, Jokers to the right and here I am stuck in the middle with you." That just seems to fit. A Woman's view on Trump Someone asked a woman how she could vote for Trump, a “misogynist, a racist and a bigot”. Here is her answer: Because I use my head to research and find out what candidates really are, not what the media wants me to think. Because D ...

Jun 18, 2017
I needed that laugh! ...

Feb 21, 2012
in a very bad car wreck, evidently fell asleep on the way home from work. Car is totaled and her husband said "she's alive" but just barely. Thank you all in advance. Her name is Lisa ...

Feb 05, 2012
There is a factory in Essex which makes the Tickle Me Elmo toys. The toy laughs when you tickle it under the arms. Well, Shelley is hired at The Tickle Me Elmo factory and she reports for her first day promptly at 8:00 am. The next day at 8:45 am there is a knock at the Personnel Manager's door. The Foreman throws open the door and begins to rant about the new employee. ... He complains that she is incredibly slow and the whole line is backing up, putting the entire production line ...

Jan 11, 2012
Please pray for my friend and past transcriptionist. She started out with breast cancer 5 years ago and is now in hospice care. The cancer has metastasized to her lungs, liver, and bones. Her attitude is very upbeat, but she knows this will ultimately defeat her. Thank you to all who care. ...

Sep 15, 2011
Please pray for my friend Gina, who is in her early 50s and has inoperable lung cancer metastasized to the bone. She has decided against treatment so she can have a good quality of life in her remaining days. ...

Dec 30, 2009
http://s300.photobucket.com/albums/nn35/qash2/?action=view&current=31.jpg (it's the picture on the right) ...

May 04, 2011
1991 Gulf War. CNN correspondent Charles Jaco is "reporting live from Saudia Arabia." Or IS HE?!! If you still believe media are telling you the truth -- about ANYTHING -- after watching this, then I truly feel sorry for you. ...

Feb 01, 2010
My boy was invited to his cousin's B-day party over the weekend. I invited my friend's son to join my boy so he wouldn't be the only boy at the party, since this was basically an all-girl party. (My boy is 9, the other is 7). We were only at my brother's place for a few minutes when "Billy" went right to my brother's wallet and started going thru it. I said, "Hey, get out of there, you don't go into people's wallets." H ...