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Should I be angry?

Posted: Sep 7, 2016

I've been dating a guy for about 6 months now. Things are kinda serious. I asked him to attend a wedding with me this weekend. However - this is the weekend he is supposed to have his kids (the wedding invite specifically says no children). I have never asked him to spend time with me instead of his children, ever. I told him we could just go to the reception if he was worried about leaving his kids. He says he doesnt think it "looks good" to go to a wedding instead of spending time with his kids. I'm kinda on the fence about this. I understand his point of view, but, I also didnt really want to go alone.

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Significant other - dll

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"Compromise" is a very large part of any relationship. However, in this particular case, I side with your "guy" as parenting is always #1 in anyone's life. If this is going to cause you so much grief, maybe dating someone already with children isn't right for you. If I were in your shoes, I would make the best of it and let it be. Tell him you "understand."

I agree with ..... - Rusty

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As a stepmom, my hubs could not do anything on the weekends he had kids, always heard about it from exes, but in today's society with so many children being neglected and worse, you should be happy he is a parent first, and maybe you should consider someone without children. Are they young? Being a step is a very hard adjustment. Go to the wedding, have fun. Bring him some cake.

On second thought - Cleopatra

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You know what, both of you are right. Why do I just see it one way - my way. I'm glad both of you opened my eyes. You are absolutely right - he is a great father and deserves his time with his kids. Thanks to both of you!!

Sounds like a great guy to me. - nm

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Maybe his wife is fighting him for custody, and - this might give her ammunition...

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Myself, I would rather go to an event alone than with a guy who doesn't really want to be there.

Not About Hubby - About the Kids

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I read your note where you saw the light. The only thing I would have liked to have seen is "the kids deserve their father."

They've already been through enough. How do you think THEY feel? Playing second fiddle to someone who came into their lives was not their choice.

It is extremely selfish to not allow kids to have their parents exclusively.

Kudos to your husband. And kudos to you, too! Think of the kids the next time something like this comes up, not yourself and your comfort level. They need their father to be consistent, and I don't care what exes are doing these days.

You have only been dating 6 months. Give it more time - nm

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