A time of transition! - Sweets Posted: Mar 22nd, 2019 - 5:23 pm In Reply to: Thanks for all the encouragement and support. - CoMt Update
I think you have made a good start. The Empty Nest Syndrome is really a time of transition into a new phase of your life. It's very difficult for some. I know that I really struggled with identity issues. I spent more than 20 years raising children. Once my youngest had moved out to go to college, I really had to adjust to a new household! The house was quieter and cleaner. I certainly did a lot less cooking.
I had a pity party for myself, but then I decided to do some things I wanted to do. One: I joined the music ministry at my church. I had always played the piano, but I had all but given it up during the times I had little ones and then running teenagers all over the place. I am rediscovering my love of music.
Two: Arts and crafts. I love, love, love designing and sewing clothes and purses and wallets. I love painting. I had very little time for this for a long time, but now I am able to devote several hours a week in my very own studio! We turned a bedroom into a room for myself.
Three: Work and travel. I have a part time job now to help us save to pay off the house and save money for travel. My husband and I are going to Europe in October for three weeks. My husband said to me, "I am so glad that it's just going to be us on this trip." And I agreed! We can go where we want and do what we want and not have to cater to bored kids!
Four: Grandkids. My oldest son presented me with a beautiful granddaughter to babysit. I love it. I get to kiss and hug and spoil her, but I do not have the 24/7 responsibility!
Five: My sister retired and moved close by, and we spend a lot of time running around together. She's my only sibling, and we have found a new love for spending time together. Her kids are grown and moved out too!
Good luck. It is a tough transition, but you will find yourself one day enjoying your new lifestyle. You do love your kids, but now it's time for you to focus on yourself and what you want to do.
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