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a new normal - ohmt

Posted: Mar 10th, 2019 - 11:40 am In Reply to: Empty Nest Syndrome - CoMt

My mom went from being someone's child, to someone's wife, to someone's mother. After three kids, she got divorced and raised us on her own. She was scared to death of all of us leaving the nest, because all of her life she was used to living with other people. She used to joke that my younger brother wasn't allowed to move out until he was 35.
The day finally came when she was living alone. I know it was hard at first, but within a few months, she actually started enjoying the peace and quiet. She could come and go as she pleased. If she didn't feel like cooking dinner or cleaning the house, she didn't have to. Didn't have to account for her time to anyone but herself. We tried to encourage her to find a boyfriend, but by then she was pretty set in her ways and didn't want to deal with a man making demands on her time.
I assume you are afraid of being alone. But you will find interesting things to do to fill your time. As another poster said, you'll have time to pursue your own interests that you've maybe had in the back of your mind, on the back burner because you were too busy with the kids. You'll have more time to cultivate new or existing friendships, and probably a little more money that you can spend on YOURSELF for a change.
And your kids will never be far away. With email, cell phones, skype, etc., you can keep in touch when they aren't there.
I know it seems scary right now, but think of all the possibilities that will open up for you! And your kids will still be around to share their accomplishments and milestones with you. Please keep us posted. Let us know how you are doing in a few weeks. Things WILL get better!
Wishing you all the best!

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