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Posted: Nov 23, 2010

I don't know how to put this delicately, so I'm just gonna throw it out there...lately, it seems that my DH only touches me in 3 places...YES, those 3 places; 2 boobs and the v-jayjay! It's really REALLY getting on my nerves but I don't know how to say nicely, "Hey, quit groping me all the time!" I did mention that I feel like he only touches me "there" but he naturally said that wasn't true. It irritates me when we are on the couch together watching TV and he has his hand up my shirt...or somewhere else. I don't need or want the constant groping, it is NOT a turn on whatsoever! Ugh, I'm irritated to death over this..how would you handle it, hopefully without causing a huge blow-up?!

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re: sm - Kiki

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From personal experience, when my man's sexual behavior suddenly changed it was because he was messing around. Got all overcharged or something.

Tell him firmly to CUT IT OUT! No still means no, even in a marriage, THEN I'd do some PI work for your sanity sake. Hope nothing is up, but like I said, that was MY experience.

After years of "normal" stuff, he became a groping nasty animal! I was sad when I figured it out. He admitted that "she did things to and for him" that I'd never do or had tried, so he tried to bring it home". I was disgusted.

I'd be suspicious if I were you, but I hope I'm wrong.

Wow, I don't know that I would assume he's cheating because he's groping. - NKC

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My husband is a groper and it gets annoying. What I found is the more I react the more he gets off on it, whether it be me smacking or yelling at him to stop or responding in a positive way. I also tried groping him constant to see how he liked it. Problem was, he DID like it. Men are animals! LOL So that didn't work.

Basically, I just stopped reacting period. Just went on doing what I was doing as if he hadn't done anything. Kept talking if I was talking to him, kept doing the dishes, kept reading my book. Eventually, he got bored. He'd say "ah you're no fun." And I said "well I'm not a toy. I'm not here for your entertainment."

Oh he still gropes now and then, but just not all the time and so I can be good natured about it.

That is quite a jump to make. My longtime - sm

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BF has spells like this, but I don't think anything of it at all. I just go with the flow, sometimes it is a lot of fun--especially in unexpected places. Keeps life from being boring.

If the change of behavior were that he STOPPED then - I would worry but I think you are way off.

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I'd enjoy it while it lasted. :) Never know when health or other issues can steal that privilege from you.

Yeah, I wouldn't necessarily jump - to that conclusion...OP sm

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This is not new behavior for him, it's just escalated recently...or maybe it hasn't but it's just really beginning to bug me lately. I certainly wouldn't jump to the conclusion that he's fooling around because he's all up in my junk...it's just annoying me and I don't know how to tell him to back off!

re:OP - just saying

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Just saying, a change in behavior (escalating you say) is a flag. Just be aware.

My ex used to also be a "fun annoying groper", but when things changed, thats when I figured it out and something was up.

I AM AWARE that it is a huge thing to bring up, quite a stretch to he's bugging me with too much groping to the affair thing. Just saying what happened with me. Thats all.

I think each person is different and not always a flag - see message

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My husband had a change in behavior but he there was no indication of him cheating or anything to that affect.

A few years ago he started doing the "groping thing". Come to find out he wanted to have sex more with me. Him being with another woman was furthest from his mind.

I don't think a change in behavior always should draw a conclusion to a person having an affair. I think each person is different.

My DH used to do that to me all the time - here's what I said

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OMG - I can't tell you how much that really p'd me off. My DH is not someone you can just "tell" things too. I have to discuss things very "gingerly" with him and kind of make a joke out of things so he doesn't get ticked off. This was about 3 or 4 years ago that he was doing it. Would grab at me, touch them, etc. I just said to him very nicely - I said, you know when you do that it is really irritating. I don't know if you realize it or not but it's really making me mad. I said - you don't hold me or hug me, you just grab at my privates and sometimes I feel like I'm a piece of beef hanging around for you to grab. I said I don't mind you touching me, but it doesn't feel like you love me when you do that. I forget all the words or what else, but that's basically what I told him. He finally stopped it. Hope something works out for you. I know exactly how you feel.

I say give it to him - Sadie

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Maybe he is having a surge in his testosterone. Get wild with him for a bit. You might find you will have a good time too! : ) If he keeps doing it at inappropriate times, make a deal with him (whatever works for both of you). I live alone and have a long distance relationship right now. Sure wish I were being groped!

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