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I think you are hurt more by your daughter - than your family. sm

Posted: Dec 12th, 2018 - 10:20 am In Reply to: Prayers for holidays - something I know some of you deal with as well....sm - Broken hearted

I do realize that you would like to keep your daughter's lifestyle and your relationship problems with her to yourself, and not share with the family. That is understandable. You will probably not be able to do that for long since she is only 20, young, and is not going to change tomorrow. Whether it is Christmas or any other time, you need to come up with a standard short answer that does not reveal any information you consider personal and at the same time let family know you do not want to discuss it. Something like, "It is what it is."

At the same time, maybe a little love and comfort during the holidays from your family would do you some good. You do not have to discuss your daughter with any of them. Just be amongst happy people and try to enjoy yourself. You cannot let yourself become isolated and depressed, and/or blame yourself. While this hurts tremendously and never goes away, YOU still have a life to live. Try to make it a good one, a positive one, a happy one. Set aside time to yourself to grieve for your daughter and pray for her. You cannot just "cut someone out of your life" without feeling anything. Accept what you feel, but do not constantly dwell on it. Make the positive changes that you can, and do not constantly grieve on what you can't. You really have no other choice. I wish you so much luck and happiness dear, and I pray that you will seek your own peace and happiness in whatever way you can.

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