Giving Up...to OP - Sweets Posted: Nov 6th, 2017 - 9:26 am In Reply to: Losing everything I have worked for - Unbelievable
My friend, Your post really touched me, and I will pray and send good thoughts in your direction. Please know that so many people are in or have been the same situation. I have posted here before about my sister, who in 2010 lost literally everything: her oldest daughter was murdered; my sister suffered a devastating psychotic break; lost her job, her house, and eventually her savings were gone. She was under the care of another daughter who was crumbling under the stress since another daughter attempted suicide. I lived in another state, so in 2011, I went to go get them and move them to my home, leaving behind an unsolved murder case. My surviving nieces were 18 and 20, and my sister was 52 then. They were truly lost souls.
Today, my sister is on SSDI, which is her sole source of income. She gets barely enough to live on, but she has recovered enough now to live independently in a very small apartment but under psychiatric care still. My nieces have recovered so well. One is married and a new mom, and the other is in college.
My point in telling you all this is to hopefully encourage you to see that others have walked in your shoes. I think from your post that you know you have to make some difficult decisions. It's just that the depression or sorrow in your life is making it all seem impossible. Start small. Clean up your house and get ready to sell. Then search out affordable housing. My SIL lets her ex-DIL live in her basement with the one grandson. Housing was just unaffordable for the ex-DIL in their area so they share a house and expenses. Swallow your pride and reach out to family, friends, groups. I think you said that you had two years to SS? In my area, there is senior housing, which is 30% of your income, no matter your amount, but the waiting list is two years. (It's not assisted living. It's one bedroom apartment community targeted to disabled and aged 62 and over.) You will need to do a lot of research for low income assistance that is available. I truly hope this helps and perhaps in a few months you can let us know how you are doing.
And lastly, you should look for another job. The SIL that I mentioned worked at Sam's after getting laid off until she could get SS. Our local hamburger place is paying $15 an hour now! MT is gone but there are other options. One former MT I know is now a nanny! She makes $20 an hour, working for a professional couple. (No babies; before and after school care. She gets a guaranteed 40 hour weekly paycheck.)
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