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I have the type of mother-in-law, who is ALWAYS in everybody's business and she loves to stir up trouble. My husband comes from a very large family and this MIL keeps things stirred up. The situation is that my hubby has ONE brother who he just does not get along with. There is some serious bad blood there, too much to go into, but some very ligitimate reasons why the two don't get along. However, hubby has 10 other brothers/sisters who he gets along with just fine. My MIL keeps stuff stirred up between hubby and the brother, even though she wouldn't have to and they still don't like each other. Well, MIL gets on these "missions" and like a few years ago, she was like.."Oh, it is my dying wish that my two sons would be in the same room again" and on and on and on. So, hubby feels bad, his brother feels bad and they both attend a family gathering that MIL arranged. It was VERY negative energy, tension, etc., and not a pleasant time for anyone really, but MIL sat there gloating on how she brought them together. Hubby also has a few more siblings that he never sees btw, due to location, and MIL never even brings this up, she doesn't care, because this isn't drama.
Well, now low and behold, MIL really is sick and it is possible that she could die soon, but then again any of us could die soon. BUT, AGAIN, she is on the spill of "Oh my, if only my two boys would be together once again, that is my one wish". Now, about six months ago, brother happened to come over to MILs the same time hubby and I were there, we all said hello and walked our different ways and she never mentioned anything then, her meetings HAVE to be with the entire HUGE family around in order to get attention. With this new venture, I really want to say "NO, this can't be your one wish, it was already your one wish in the past, and you got that wish, move on" and hubby kind of feels the same way, but I'm afraid if something did happen to her he would feel guilt, like he couldn't do that for her. BUT, doing that for her causes much turmoil in our own little family, causes negative energy, negative thinking, dragging up the past, and so forth. Would you encourage your husband to grin and bear it or just say, NO, we're good and not subject ourselves or the other family to that tension just for the sake of MILs need for a circus side show or something?
Thanks for listening, I realize this is long.
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