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Have you ever felt like this?

Posted: Nov 9, 2010

Remember when we were young girls and boys? That "crush" feeling you get on a same-sex person because you thought they were so awesome? I feel like a silly school girl with a crush! I reconnected with an elementary school friend about 6 months ago, and she is so successful (not super rich, just owns a local business), so fun, so beautiful and is so generous and friendly and loving! I find myself wanting to just hang out with her, her husband and her kids all the time! DH was kidding around with me and says she is all I talk about now and it's true!

We go to lunch, talk on the phone. She has me doing charity work, volunteering... She is a marathon runner and has been taking me on walks and says she's going to "whip me into shape"! I actually feel like I can do it! She has 3 mostly grown up kids that are so nice and doing well in school and also active in almost anything. Her daughter is a stylist and cut and colored my hair and know what!!!??? I LOVE HOW I LOOK!

Her husband and my husband actually get together also and they seem to really like each other and also do things together! He is also a really up beat and super friendly guy.

This rekindled friendship has made me so happy I feel like I'm going to burst! I feel better about this lousy job, about myself, about life! I wish I could share her with all who feel down. I really needed a friend like this and I've missed a friendship like this. My production at work has increased by at least 3 times! (for real!)

I love our girls nights. We rent a gal movie, get a bottle of wine and hang out at my house, pop a bag of popcorn and watch the movie, sometimes we cry, sometimes we laugh and the men hang out in the garage or go for a beer. It's like I've been renewed and recharged. Her oldest son called me, said he was going to the store for mom and asked if I needed anything! Wow! I remember when my son and daughter lived at home (they moved out of town) and they'd do little things like that. It made me so happy.

HAVE A BLESSED DAY! I AM SENDING MY POSITIVE ENERGY TO ANYONE WHO READS THIS BECAUSE MY CUP RUNNETH OVER!

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re: Shelly - Tessy

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I have been working this at-home job for 7 years now and got to the point where I'm pretty much isolated. It's just me and my husband. He has a "real job" and my kids are moved out, in college and have lives elsewhere.

I envy your and your re-newed friendship. For me finding something like that would probably change everything about me. I am depressed, lonely, alone, hate my job, hate my life, feel ugly, look like a slob...

Good for you. Thanks for your positive energy, but I'm impervious at this point. The only friends I have are on facebook, no face-to-face real friends.

You just described my life - bag lady

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I have been at this at-home job for 5 years. It's just DH and me. He is unemployed. But I have no friends or family close by. No kids either. It's soooo lonely. I feel like I'm an orphan and most of the time I wish for 2012 to happen sooner so I can be rid of this life. This job has packed on 50+ pounds, and yes I could exercise but I'm so darn tired after work all I do is lay in front of the TV. I too am depressed, lonely, alone, feel ugly and look like a slob, but I do love my job.

My only friends are through email and MTStars.

Yes, as a matter of fact! - sm

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I have had, for the past five years or so, a group of 5 friends (including me), some of which I've known for years, one of which is married to a family member of my husband's, and we all just hit it off so well it's ridiculous! I've never been one to have a lot of friends (always had one or two really close friends, but that's about it), and often found females to be very catty or I felt they were just untrustworthy, would talk behind my back in a heartbeat (you know the kind!), etc. So yes, I'm over the moon to have these wonderful, selfless, caring, nonjudgemental women in my life in my 40s! And even better? All (yes, all) of our husbands are friends, too! They do things together separately, have slumber parties with the girls, and we all get together as couples too. We have several parties each year, cookouts in the summer, and we all just got together to celebrate our 20th wedding anniversary.

May your wonderful friendship live on for many years to come, and mine too! They enrich our lives so much, don't they?

oops, meant to say \"we have slumber parties,\" - not the guys! nm

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re: oops - just me

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That correction was hilarious! I got what you meant in the first posting but your correction made me laugh so much!

I wish I was lucky to have friendships like you and OP describe. Like the other poster, I'm isolated and well, just a sad case. I like to blame the job also, but I know it's me. I've become so depressed I don't even get out of the house. My husband comes home from work, has dinner and generally leaves to visit his parents or just hangs out in the garage, that's how much fun I am...

thanks for the laugh though. I hope to someday have what you have.

Same here - LinK

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I'm also lucky enough to have two really great "girl" friends. On I've known for quite a while. She was a neighbor and when she moved luckily just 11 miles away, it was traumatic. LOL. We're very close. Her kids and our kids are all friends as well as my husband and her husband. We go on vacations together and even spend Christmas Day with each other. I consider them family. My other good friend is surprisingly young enough to be my daughter. My husband and her boyfriend work together and we became friends about a year and a half ago. I love my friends. Every weekend there's dinner, bonfires and picnics in the summer or just generally getting together. My wish would be for everyone to have at least one great friend.

have you ever - s/m

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If you all get along so well, you should try swinging! It can be a blast, but you have to all get along. Try it, you'll probably like it.

re: s/m - Kiki

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BOO! Go away nasty swinger! Take your STDs with you! BOO!

re: nasty swinger - nm

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I agree with Kiki, you're nasty. Me and my man are MATURE and loving enough for just each other AND secure enough in our relationship that we don't have to go elsewhere. What a sad couple you must be that you don't even love or respect each other enough to be happy together. How sad it must be to KNOW that you will never be happy with just each other. Swingers? HA! More like sad and pathetic couples.

Happy for you. That must be one heck of a friend - Backwards Typist

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I am so isolated it's not funny. My family are all gone except for an aunt. My bestest friend of over 30 years died a couple years ago, and my kids have their own lives. One calls because he doesn't even have a vehicle and one stops by once every couple weeks for a couple hours, but that's it. I often wonder what will happen to me if something happens to my husband. I wonder if my kids would offer to help out or would I be totallly on my own.

My husband tries to work but there's not much available, so he's here practically all the time.

I lost my job a couple months ago and don't know what I'm going to do. That was a blow to my self-esteem. But, I'm still happy to be alive and in decent health.

Sure, I can connect with other high school friends but everyone seems to be so busy with their own lives, it's impossible to get together anymore and besides, most of them have moved to other states because of the NJA where I live. The internet and email is all I have. I keep busy with a garden, cooking, TV and reading. Anyway, if I did get together with old friends, I wouldn't have anything to talk about since my world centers around the above and I'm sure they would find it very boring.

BTW, I used to be very outgoing and friendly to everyone, even talking to people in the store that I didn't know, but I don't even go to the store anymore.

Cherish your renewed friendship and enjoy every minute of it.

If you find a solution, please pass it on - sm

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I don't even have the benefit of a husband/significant other and my kids are 1500 miles away. I have the dogs. And neighbors who hate me because, like an old John Wayne movie, they apparently want the land my house since on (since they own everything else on this side of the street). I get more isolated by the day and I've actually discovered that I talk to so few people, I can only talk about 5-10 minutes before I start getting hoarse, presumably from disuse.

The only thing i can think of to do is volunteer for something - Backwards Typist

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Maybe to work in a soup kitchen or food pantry, library or other things like that. I've thought of it but can't because I never know when hubby is going to have a day of work and that leaves me without a car since he works more than 50 miles away.

re: solution - mindy

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I agree. Get yourself out there and volunteer! Don't keep yourself isolated. It is not only lonely, it could be dangerous! You need to make friends that will call and check on you for your safety and goodwill. Heaven forbid something bad happen, but in case something does, people need to miss you before they can help you! If you stay all holed up, no one is even going to know you exist! Make the effort please.

I often worry about this with my husband gone... - Kendra

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What would happen to my kids if I were to fall and get hurt, or say something happened and one of the horses kicked me. I know my neighbors and we are friendly, but they never come over here. How many soccer practices would we have to miss before someone came looking, or how many weeks of church? I do associate with people, but I am not sure than anyone would come to check if I didn't call or show up.

Thank you for sharing! - HappyIC

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Wow...just reading your post made my day!! I could really use a friend in my life, and one like you described would be an absolute Godsend.

Thank you for sharing your blessings and lifting up those of us who may not be as fortunate right now.

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