I need advice please.

I want to get some others advice and opinion on this situation. My husband bought a home for our family in Louisiana where he has a good job. He had been working there for a while and staying in a camper during the week at his brother's place who lives in the area already. He would come home on weekends, which was two hours away. After a while, we decided to look for a home here and bought one and moved. Around the time we moved here, his twin brother needed a job and got one at the same company. He needed a place to stay until he could decide whether to rent, own, move etc. We offered. I was okay with it. It started out okay. He went home on Fridays to be with his family and would just stay during the week. After a while it got old and I asked my husband you know what are his plans? Is he going to get a place? The camper my husband used to stay in during the week is right up the road at his other brother's. Can't he stay in it during the week? I mean come on. My husband said well he goes home on weekends so he is just here during the week. Well after a few months of him being here, he and his wife had problems, which were really an ongoing thing, and they split up. So he no longer goes home on weekends. He is here all the time. After a few months of having a houseguest, it has gotten old. I am also a very private person, introverted, and my privacy is necessary. I have approached the subject with my husband, and I think sometimes he would like for him to find somewhere to stay, but he doesn't want to hurt his feelings and probably doesn't know how to tell him in a nice way it is time for you to find a place to stay whether it be the camper or what. Well this weekend he of course did not go home as I guess he thinks this is his home. He left at 5 this morning and I thought good maybe he is going home and spend time with his family to see his kids even if he doesn't want to be with his wife, right? No he went a couple hours away to his home, got his kids and brought them here to spend time with them. Sweet kids, one is in kindergarten and the other is in third or fourth grade. My point is he has become comfortable here and basically has moved in pretty much and sees this as his home. How would you feel about this and if you would feel like me, tired of it, how would you make your husband understand this is not fair to you, who has not had your new home to yourselves since you moved in and that his brother has worn out his welcome without being ugly about it? I know my husband doesn't want to hurt feelings and doesn't know how to approach it but something has to give at some point. Someone give me advice how to handle this. Please.

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I need advice please. - Mtgirl

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