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what do you do when you have identified the peak of

Posted: Oct 6, 2013

Mine was February 2010. Everything just seemed absolutely perfect. Kids were great, husband was great, pets were great, house was great. Nothing spectacular or over the top. Nothing fancy. Just everyone and everything was in perfect alignment.

Now it's just all....broken. 2013 has been an extremely tough year.

How do get over something like this?

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You don't "get over it" - you make the best of it

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I cannot say anything more than that. One finds their own happiness in life. Life does not make one happy. It is inside of you. Many of us have had a horrific year, and I believe it is not going to get much better any time soon. So to keep from going insane, roll with the punches. I know it sounds trite, but when life hands you lemons, you make lemonade.

thanks :) - exactly why i'm athiest

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I had a feeling someone would come on and say that. But it's true, I just have to get over it or check myself out. Those are the only 2 options.

How I survive - I help others

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I find that I'm happiest when I'm making someone else happy. There are days when I feel sorry for myself and have a little pity party for one...and more times than not someone comes along who needs help with something that I know how to do. Suddenly I'm feeling positive about life again. I think we all need to be needed. Not to the point that we're overwhelmed, but just doing little things for other people always lifts my spirits. I was recently put to shame by myself when, after a day of feeling that life just isn't fair, and how I should be much farther ahead than I am, my mom called to say my cousin Laura had just passed away from breast cancer. That was a wake-up call that I'd better appreciate what I have and stop feeling sorry for myself. God has a way of saying "Snap out of it" in instances like that.

Great advice. - love it

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<3

God has a way of piling more crap - on the compost heap

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OP - living with regret and looking over your shoulder will only get you more depressed. It's all relative. Make the best of what you have now and keep thinking outside the box to make things better.

If life teaches anything at all.... - sm

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It teaches that there are so many happy endings that the man who believes there is no God needs his rationality called into serious question...

My favorite Stephen King quote. Just something to consider....

I understand you have your troubles - anon

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but how can you determine that Feb 2010 point was the absolute peak for you? Everything goes in circles -- good times and bad. You have a lot of time left in front of you for good times again.

Just remember -sm - peaks and valleys

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If you stand on a top of a mountain and look out, there are valleys and then there are other mountain tops. Life is like that. Your life now is just in a valley and you have to be patient and you will get to the mountain top again. My life has been through a whole mountain range by now and so yours will be. And how boring is it to think if you had to stay on flat plains all the time!?

What an excellent response. - You have an artists mind

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I never really thought of it like that but you are so right and what a way to put it.

I just call it "existing" LOL

Another "peak" maybe coming up for you - nobody knows - sm

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what the future will bring. You will most likely find another alignment. It sounds like you are comparing everything to 02/10. Sometimes the peaks are different.

Believe me, I've had good years and bad years. Some are worse/better than others. The peaks for me are all different. One year may have been great for this or that reason, but then another years was great, but for a different reason. Same with bad years.

I think if you keep comparing everything with 02/10 you will never be happy enough, yet maybe instead find what good you can with what is going on now. You just have to find the little stuff you enjoy and make the best of it.

I will agree with you, 2013 has been a very tough year for many, but just try and make the best of it.

For me my time in the service, when I met my husband and we eloped to Denmark, traveled throughout Europe, spent vacations in exotic places those were the best times. Those were great times, but I don't compare everything to that. That was just one part of my life. Then I've had parts that sucked and parts that were good, but each for different reasons. While nothing will ever compare the great times traveling around being in the military doing fantastic and interesting things, my other good times are just as good for different reasons. Now I just make the best of what I have and keep dreaming for our future.

I think it helps to have some plans. Sure, it may take winning the lotto to achive some of my dreams, but I love to plan and think of a way to achieve what we want even if we don't win the lotto. I always think of that line from the movie Contact, where Elle's father says to her "Small steps Ellie, small steps".

I'm not a religious person. I've very spiritual, but not religious and I have to say none of what I have would have been possible without the Lord. I'm no expert in religion or the Bible. Couldn't tell you anything about it, but without God I am nothing. Knowing that He loves me and He's helping me gets me through a lot of difficult times.

I wish peace for you and that you will find another peak in your life that you will enjoy.

thank you for your kind words - very helpful

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i love the movie Contact, by the way!

Me, too - Mine was June 2013

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In early June we lost our beloved dog. July 24th my brother suddenly dropped dead of a heart attack, and the very same day there was a terrible fight that ensued between me and my sister. Some weeks later her two daughters (whom I have loved all my life) called me to talk things over with them. I arrived at the house, and was ambushed. It was not a conversation, it was a witch hunt. Things will never, ever be the same. I have no family of my own. Guess a big pitcher in lemonade is in the making. Good luck to you. Hope things start looking up.

same to you, thanks for your encouragement - See inside

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I am the only child in my family who bought a house (brother and mother own trailers). Due to my own poor money management i'm talking to debt consolidation agencies. My son had his toenail removed last week and is doing poorly with it, had a lot of pain and it looks awful. My cat had her tail docked the day before (she ran outside and came back with it broken). she ripped the stitches out trying to get away from me while giving her antbiotics. I have to take her back today and this is on top of the $547 it cost for her to have the surgery and bloodwork and shots. Our second home was broken into 2 weeks ago and music equipment and a television stolen. I could go on but I sounds like a country music song.

It just has to get better! Thanks to everyone for the encouragement

May 1987 (nm) - All Downhill From There

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Well, I remember several peaks in my life, - each for different reasons. (sm)

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And of course there have been some pretty deep valleys, as well. But once I started working for an MTSO, things just slowly went down and down. The peaks still came, but they were less and less, and more difficult to recognize. I had to really look for them. 2013 started out pretty low. My mother died in Dec. 2012 after 2 years of progressive illness. I wasn't able to go visit her as much as I should have, because I just couldn't afford the gas to drive there. Or a plane ticket. After she died, my sister, who was her main caregiver, started having a pretty significant depressive meltdown. Then all the remaining siblings started fighting over the small amount of money and the old, falling-apart house we inherited. Meanwhile, the MTSO became more and more irrational about their production & accuracy quotas, and the pay kept dropping. I was building up a pretty significant credit card debt, and had no way to pay it off. Job applications weren't being responded to. My savings was almost gone. Still, for some reason, other personal and social things began looking up in 2013, and there were several (small) high-points and opportunities that kept me going. Near the end of summer, things suddenly turned around. The right job finally came along, I applied for it, and I got it. The family issues began to calm down. The fears I had about returning to an office-setting job were completely unfounded. I actually enjoy going to work. I feel better, now that I have more of a real weekly schedule, like "normal" people have. I get less sleep than before, but it's better, more restful sleep. My commute is long - about 2 hours each way. I was afraid of that, at first, but those fears of getting burned out by practically living in my car were also unfounded. I discovered, among other things, that once you become very familiar with your route and know just about every inch of it, it actually seems shorter. I get my alone-time while I'm driving to and from work. On the way to work, I wake up. On the way home, I work on my to-do list, or my shopping list. Other times, I bring my bike in the car, and on the way home, if traffic is heavy and starting to get annoying, I pull off and park near a trail head or a park, and go for a bike ride til traffic thins out. And of course, being able to finally start to pay off my debts, keep my apartment, and still feed myself removes a LOT of stress. Which in turn has caused other little things in life to start falling into place, and start going right, instead of always going wrong.

All the low points, mainly being dirt-poor for almost a decade, now, has taught me some valuable life skills. How to stretch a dollar being the most important of all. I also actually got pretty darned good at being poor. I got good at scavenging, sniffing out freebies, bartering services for what I needed, juggling bill payments, making an edible meal out of what I could find in a nearly-empty fridge, and getting by. So I guess if you can survive so far in the total he[[ that is medical transcription, you can survive anything. I think that once you hit bottom, even something as small as finding a quarter on the ground is a step up, and doesn't take much effort to accomplish. And each little improvement often leads to others, and it starts to snowball, just like the bad juju of the transcription world has snowballed for so many years. So keep on looking for the little hills, instead of life peaks, and eventually they'll turn into foothills, and finally mountain peaks again. Things WILL eventually get better for you, I'm sure of it.

May 2013... - AMT

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Finally stopped fertility treatments and learned to "accept" being child free. It was actually a relief in a way to not have to go through all of that anymore.

It can only go up from here. I have alot to be thankful for and am Blessed in my life. God's plan for me is different than what I thought after all and I'm okay with that. I get to have all the fun of being "auntie."

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