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Paychecks and being nosey.
Posted: Jul 25, 2011
Does anyone have experience with a nosy person, in my case my mom, asking what your paycheck was nearly everytime you get one. She also asks how much my husband's was. Then will say she doesn't think that was enough for what all he did the last 2 weeks, etc. I hate hurting feelings but this is just ridiculous. I mean I don't call and ask her if she has been paid and what she made and what my stepdad made. It's not my business the way I see it. But she has no problem just calling and asking straight up what was your check? What was husband's check? I'm like geez this is SOOO nosy. I would never have the nerve to do this, not when my child was grown and married. I am 34 years old. I just HATE being mean, especially to my mom. So do any of you or have you had this problem?;
Nosy mom - The Analog Kid
[ In Reply To ..]When I first got out on my own, my mom would get nosy about my paycheck, who I dated, etc. It dawned on me one day I was a self-sufficient adult not living in her house and she wasn't paying my bills. I think I only had to tell her twice to mind her own business. She got hurt, didn't talk to me for a week and got over it. That was 35 years ago and things are fine.
Because my sister can't say no to her and caves at a moment's notice, my mom calls her 4-5 nights a week and noses around. I've told my sister and told her, and told her.....it must work for her on some level because she still puts up with it.
You can say no politely, and more forcefully if need be. She may try to make you feel guilty, but she'll come back. We moms can't stay away from our
kids too long...
My dad..... - Old part-timer
[ In Reply To ..]My dad was always of the opinion that if someone was so gutsy to ask you a question like that, which was none of their business, you had every right to lie. Actually, the more obvious the lie was, the better - like tell them your last check was $3000. And your husband's was even more!
That would be like looking through your purse (or wallet). - never, ever do that.
[ In Reply To ..]If my husband asks me if I have any money and I say, yep in my wallet, he will bring me my whole purse, never looks through my stuff (not that I would care) and I don't look through his wallet (not that he would care) but that's just the way we roll. Tell her it is NONYA. None of your business.
Nose - Trouble
[ In Reply To ..]A simple, mature response: "I'm not discussing that with you." If the inquiry persists, "I have to go now; I love you; talk to you later," and hang up. Re you "hate being mean" to your mother, is it possible that you actually "hate feeling powerless" to establish simple, mature boundaries with your mother?
Just from my kids, I tell them it is none of their - sm - Zorro
[ In Reply To ..]business. I do let them know when I have a good one but that is it. They are well fed and clothed, have everything they need and then some. They do not need to know what mom and dad make, and your mom does not need to know what you make (unless she is setting you up for a touch or something).
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