I need some advice. My son just confessed to me that his girlfriend - Anony Posted: Mar 17th, 2018 - 8:13 am
(the mother of my grandchildren) has a very serious drug problem. She was arrested last night for shoplifting and was found to be in possession of "drug paraphernalia" and was held for 24 hours. I get a panicked call from my son asking me if I can watch the girls. Apparently, he was home with the girls when his GF went out with a friend to go to Wal-Mart. He couldn't get ahold of her for two hours and then gets a phone call from the police station saying she had been arrested. He calls me to come over because he thinks he can go to the police station and get her released. I show up and at first he's telling me it was his GF "friend" who shoplifted and because they were together they both got arrested. But mother's intuition told me there was more to the story especially because I could tell that over the last few weeks my don's anxiety had been amped up. He's always had a problem with anxiety, but lately he'd been really out of sorts. He had started a new job and his girlfriend had insinuated to me that he may be bipolar like his father, that he didn't want to go to his new job, and that she just couldn't handle him anymore, blah, blah, blah. I've been trying to talk to him daily and calm him down, told him go see his doctor, get something that might help even him out. Then last night this happens. My son breaks down and tells me he's been dealing with her drug addiction for six months at least. She was hooked on pain pills for "fibromyalgia" and then when no one would prescribe to her anymore, she was getting it illegally and now he confesses she has been using heroine, at first smoking it and now shooting it up. I am just sick. He said that is what his anxiety has been about. He said it wasn't that he didn't want to work or go to this job, but that he had extreme anxiety about leaving his daughters at home with her. They are 2 and 1 years old.
I guess I just don't know what to do. I told him his GF needs professional help, but I also am very angry that the GF would try to make me believe the problem was my son all this time when the reality is his anxiety was VERY understandable and VERY normal given the situation. I talked him out of going to the police station because I know they wouldn't release her. A 24-hour hold is a 24-hour hold. Plus they aren't even married, so technically my son is not family. I'm guessing she was released this morning, because I get a text from son begging me not to let the GF know that he told me anything because she would be humiliated if she knew that he told me. He told me just to "forget about everything" and that he would handle it. She's going to get help and get clean and I shouldn't worry. WHAT!?!?!?! I shouldn't worry, yeah right. That's all of done since last night! No sleep and now I'm at work, trying to concentrate when all I can think about is what the hell do I do? I am sick about my granddaughters. I feel compelled to get them out of there. My son is a good father, but he has to go to work and when he goes to work, he has to leave them with her! He says she's a good mother and she loves her kids and she would never do the drugs while she's caring for them. Am I supposed to believe that?!?!?! I feel like I HAVE to do something, but what? What legal options do I have here? At this point, I'm the only person who knows about any of this. Her family doesn't know anything. My son made me promise not to tell anyone. Her family are decent folks and I know would want to help, but then I may get into a battle with them over my granddaughters and I don't want that. My son should have his girls. He takes good care of them, he loves them, and he is extremely close to them. It's obvious to anyone looking in that those girls are closer to him than their mother. He's their primary caretaker. BUT he won't leave the GF. I've offered my home to him. I said to take the girls and come stay with me until the GF gets help, but he says he's not going to leave her. What do I do? Someone just tell me what to do…
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