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I'll try and make this short: About a year ago I borrowed some money from my sis ($3K). We were struggling trying to make ends meet. DH and I both had jobs, but needed a little help. She took out of her retirement and asked that we pay her back a little bit each month so she would know she'd be getting something in. Everything was going great, finally got caught up and had planned to start paying her back 3 months later. Unforatunately DH got laid off. He also got sick and we had a bunch of doctor bills. Then the next month I got notice that I was being laid off. Ugs!!! She knew my DH got laid off. I ended up getting another job, but at a drastic reduction in pay. We could not afford anything. Cut back on everything. We are doing nothing and don't spend money on anything except what we need. I sold whatever I could to pay the rent. Including a cemetary plot my mom bought for us because first, we had to get the money from somewhere and second, there is no plan for me to be shipped across the country after I'm gone. It was security my mom wanted us laid to rest next to her. Well when you have no money and if you don't pay your rent, well you know what happens. I remember my sister telling me she wanted a big "gated" family buriel area. Anyway...So here it is a year later and I have not been able to pay her anything yet (constantly trying to find ways to make extra money so I can start paying her something, but right now we make less than what our bills are, eat very little and do nothing.
Fast forward...today is my sis' birthday. A few weeks ago was my birthday and my sis has a great sense of humor. She send me a messiage on my facebook page that said happy b-day to my favorite sister...oh wait, my only sister. I laughed and thought it was cute. Today I send her a message with a funny meme that said happy birthday and had a cat jumping out of a cake holding a sign "your adopted" and the kid crying. This is something she would laugh at because of course she's not adopted, but she used to joke to me that I was and we'd laugh. I put that on this morning and now I was just checking her facebook page and it's gone, but she has a ton of other messages. Then I scrolled down and I saw a message she wrote thanking everyone for caring during this difficult time.
I've tried calling her, but she doesn't answer her phone (for anyone - even my dad). I've emailed her and she doesn't respond. My dad tells me she is always on the go doing things with her daughter. I know a few months ago her son (who is "slow") moved out and in with his girlfriend and she was pretty upset about that, but everyone was telling her to let him go (he's 26 years old, but she said she never wanted him to leave home).
So not seeing my funny b-day wish (when she puts up funny stuff herself), I am not sure what to think. She turned 59, so don't think it's a big upset year. Just weird my facebook card is gone. I just posted a message saying happy birthday, hope she had a good day and hope everything is going okay.
I'm just baffled and wanted to know what you think. I've been feeling guilt now for I don't know how long about not being able to pay her anything yet. It's like trying to squeeze water out of a turnip. We don't have enough money to pay all our bills. We keep trying to find ways to improve our income so we can at least get something to her. Do you think she's mad over that? I know it's hard to know if that is it. I just don't know what to think. I don't think the card offended her. She's got a very dry and goofy sense of humor. One time when my cousin was in the hospital after an accident my sis sent him a get well card that said get well on the front and inside said "I hope you don't die", so something like this is just weird to me.
Going to change my name to "Guilt"
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