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If anyone wants to comment on this I would appreciate what people have to say or if you have had similar experiences. This has been going on for a long time but I needed to vent. I have known someone for years who I used to consider to be one of my best friends. We did quite a bit together, chatting on the phone, sharing e-mails, going out for lunch, shopping, the usual "girl" stuff that people do with their friends. For quite a while, though, I have been the one who always (as in 100% of the time) tries to make plans, calls, texts, and e-mails. My friend cancels at the last minute or when I ask has a reason (excuse?) why she can't go or says she will let me know and never gets back to me, which is what recently happened. Then when I e-mailed a couple of days in advance and tried to get her to commit to a time and place, she accused me of getting mad and told me to go ahead and make other plans. I had to stop calling her at home because her husband hangs up on me or yelled at me last time and told me not to call there anymore. I e-mail quite frequently, newsy notes to let her know what's happening with me but those go unanswered 9 times out of 10. Then when we do go places, she sees people she knows from her church and table hops, leaving me to sit there by myself waiting for her to come back, or in the mall or wherever she will engage in a conversation with someone she knows for 10 or 15 minutes, leaving me to wait. She won't let me come to her house to pick her up, we always have to meet somewhere. She asked me on very short notice to knit some Christmas gifts for some of her family members, asked how much I charged which was cheap to begin with, and then short changed me. I think it's obvious that this friendship is over and I've decided not to e-mail again which is all I could do as my other means of communication have been blocked except texting but it's difficult to have a conversation like that. I'm not a social butterfly and I stink at small talk so only have a few close friends, but I hate to see this one end, we've known each other forever. When I try to get this out in the open, things get twisted and I'm made to feel as if I'm the one at fault. She never shares much either and the whole thing is pretty one-sided but I feel awful everytime I get blown off and guilty because I don't know what I have done.
She's retired and very involved with her church and I'm still working full-time and very involved at her church. I guess she's busy but it doesn't take that long to pick up the phone once in a while to say hi or even acknowledge my email to say "thanks" and let me know that she read it. It's obvious that her husband hates me, I don't know why, but he's very controlling and has some issues so he could be the one behind this. Her adut granddaughter also lives with them and that's another can of worms.
Anyway, thanks for letting me vent, have a good day everyone.
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