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Posted: Feb 25, 2017

I'm having a really rough couple of days.  I have no control over what is happending and it is driving me nuts.  I need to vent.  I'm either going to stroke out or start a bleeding ulcer.  My partner and I have been together since 1999.  There is still 1 child/adult at home (not mine biologically).  The idiot got married because her boyfriend threatened to kill himself.  They've been married almost 2 years now and live with us.  He can't keep a job.  She has a career type job and for some reason let her license lapse and so didn't work for more than 2 months, meaning they were not contributing to the household financiall, or for that matter anything else.  Heaven forbid if you make a mess/cook or anything you have to clean up after yourself.  They plan on moving away in August but I don't see that really happening.  They have 3 dogs, 2 medium and 1 larger, who are sweethearts but when they hear his car coming down the road (when it is drivable) they lose their minds, whining, howling, barking, disturbing the whole neighborhood.  They used to live in an upstairs apartment and the downstairs neighbor pulled a gun one night and threatened to kill them (which honestly I don't blame him), and so they moved in with us.  They couldn't afford to pay for the apartment anyway.  Now the darlings are here with us again.  They didn't have much money this week because of him not working and her just starting back to work, and so they asked if they could pawn the TV from their room (which we bought).  They were told yes (not asking me first), they could pawn the one from their room, but this morning I get up and go to the living room where our TV is and surprise, it's not the one that was in the living room.  It is the one from their room.  Apparently they could get more money out of that one since it's slightly bigger.  I am so angry I had to take a Xanax, something that is very rare for me to do.  I want to scream, tell them to grow up because they are 24 and 28 and should be responsible adults, and kick them out instead of waiting until August, even knowing they can't make it financially.  But she's not my biological kid and it doesn't seem to matter that I've been with her since she was 6 years old.  

Okay, we are enabling them.  I know that and I don't see a way out.  I have stopped loaning them money for gas or anything.  Between the 2 of them they owe just me over 2500.00 (money I can't afford not to get back, and she has a car loan and personal load through my partner which she has not been paying so we have had to cover those too since they put them in my partner's name instead of hers.  Guess what's on my horizion...bankruptcy.  Working transcription has gone from a nearly a 70,000 dollar a year job to a just over a 20,000 dollar job a year.  Oh, and there were no jobs available for work today so I'm having to take PTO.  Combine that with I'm having a knee replacement in April, I'm suprised I really have not had that stroke.  

Look, I had to vent, to get it out of my system somehow without any backlash from anyone here.  You know that I know what needs to be done, so if you respond to this, please be constructive and not so critical.  I got myself in this predicament, now I have to find a way out.  

Thanks for reading this.  

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In the same boat! - lost at sea

[ In Reply To ..]
With me it is my biological son who dropped out of school cos I refused to buy him a high end motorcycle i could ill afford, six years since dropping out of school, refuses to work, has a GF of course, and expects the best of everything (at my expense of course!) and on top of it, his dad and my husband on 27 years suddenly decided he does not want to work anymore,

You know what you need to do - xx

[ In Reply To ..]
so you've got that part of the problem licked.

Now all you need is a plan for doing what you know needs to be done.

Having a plan (break it down into easy-to-accomplish steps) for solving the problem, even if it isn't going to happen right away, might bring you some comfort now and reduce the stress you must be experiencing from this situation.

Good luck.

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