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NEIGHBOR ISSUES


Posted: Aug 22, 2015

There are 3 families with young children who live next to me.  My children are grown and gone.  All of the children like to come to my house, probably because I don't have to discipline them, I'm like a grandmother.

Anyway, I will label them family A, B and C. 

Family A is no longer allowed to play with family B or C - long story.

I enjoy having all of the children at my house - I miss having children around.  I have never had this problem before and I'm not sure how to handle this.  Do I make Family B and C go home with Family A comes over - visa versa?

As it stands now, I let anyone over.  If Family A parents done like it, they can call their kids home. 

;

I think your current plan is good... - anon

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You are a friend to the children, not their babysitter or biological grandmother so you don't need to get involved in the neighbor disputes. It could be a good opportunity for you to be the voice of reason and show that everyone can play together and get along. It's your house and you can have over whomever you want. I think you are correct that if the parents don't like it, it's their responsibility to call their kids home.

but I feel bad - me

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I feel bad because the children from family A really want to come over, but aren't allowed because the other family's kids are there. I feel that they should get a turn too. Do you still think I should stick with how I'm doing it? First come/first serve?

These things have a way of blowing over or working themselves out... - anon

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I really wouldn't recommend getting involved in whatever the problem is with these parents. Just stick with what you are doing and welcome any child who is allowed to come over. Leave the policing to the parents.

Agreed - sm

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If the parents don't want their kids at your house at certain times - whatever the reason - it's up to them to police it and enforce it with their own children, not you.

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