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Posted: Aug 17, 2015

My husband is thinking about leaving me. We have a 15-year-old son who will be devastated if he does. He says I don't give him enough affection and says he hasn't been happy for years. I asked him for a second chance to make things right, and he said no. Haven't spoken to eachother since yesterday morning. Praying God will soften his heart and allow me another chance. Prayers for that would be appreciated.

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Praying for you and your marriage and family, Alex - sm

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I do know that God hates divorce. Let's pray in faith that His will is done and your marriage is healed. No problem is too big, and God can do anything.

You know what he is talking about? You know what to do - Wifely duties

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Hope he is not having an affair or on internet fooling around. They say men never leave a marriage without a woman to go to. Give your husband what he needs so he will not wander if this is the case. Affection usually refers to this. light some candles and take a bath with him.

Very well said - My thoughts

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I am guessing he's been starving for affection for years. This can't be the first time he's mentioned it. If he hasn't, it surely doesn't take a brain surgeon to figure out that men want their women to love them deeply, and this is shown by physical affection and not b*tching all the time.

SO, OP, get in gear. He told you why he's leaving, the rest is up to you to keep him. It may be too late, but asking people to pray because you've been cold and unaffectionate is not the answer. It's YOURS now. Sorry if it's too late, but I seriously doubt this was your first inclination he's felt rejected by you.

Think about it instead of playing victim. It usually takes years of rejection for a man to finally leave a woman he loves.

You said it well, too - JC

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I kiss my husband and tell him I love him---every single day of our lives. I adore him, and show him every day. It's not just about "bedroom" intimacy, though that's a big part of it---it's about truly showing your love. I don't feel sorry for women who don't appreciate their husbands, and then the husband leaves. Duh. Get with the program.

So, you are asking for prayers to have your husband "soften up"? Maybe you need to soften up---perhaps he has been praying for years for you to do that. I agree with the poster who said this isn't the first time he's mentioned this in one form or another.

Wow - Lori

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Just saw all the dislikes to a post that actually says it right. Why should a husband not wander if he's living with an ice cube? This woman sounds selfish, at least in terms of showing love for her husband. I don't care how much she goes to church, how much money she gives to charity, how much "do-gooding" she does, she obviously isn't very nice to her husband.

So, she is doing this to her son--it's not her husband doing it to her son. If she loves her son, she will fix this. It must be a lot of years of rejection for the man who loves her to take this final leaving step.

I do say to the man---maybe stick around until your kid is 18. The kid does need his father and it would not be right to reject your son who desperately needs you. It's not his fault his mother is an iceberg.

Somehow I doubt this selfish woman would actually show this note to her husband, but maybe it will give her something to think about. Just maybe.

And to other women: Don't be dumb. We have all the power to keep our husbands, and you know what I mean. If you are offended by showing your husband affection, then leave and let him find someone who is able to do that.

Thanks so much - Alex

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I'm sorry, I didn't realize this was an attack board. I thought it was a prayer request board. Thanks for your help, brothers and sisters, but you don't know anything more than what I posted. You assumed a lot from just one sentence. Prayer aren't supposed to come with conditions...so please do not intercede on my part if your prayers for my family are bound by your assumptions. Blessings

Sorry, we only - Have what you said to go on

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We only can respond to what you said your husband said and offer the best advice we can. Prayers also come with taking responsibility for our own actions.

Best to you always.

As I said before, they are trolls. You are giving them what they want - sm

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by responding. There is no way ANYONE can get you are a cold fish, especially since they do not know you. We have 1 person who posts over and over under different names and emails so she can troll and they let her get away with it because she is owner/mod.

Prayed for you too. - me

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I pray that you accept whatever happens as God's will and that it is what is best for you even though it may be painful. I do hope it isn't divorce.

May He comfort you and your family at this difficult time.

Prayers - Rusty

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Prayers sent up just now. Keep your chin up and the faith. I firmly believe it takes 2 people to work on the marriage at the same time (experience), and without both working it will not work. Encourage him to help you fix it, takes turns each week planning a date, or just alone time. Talk, touch, hug, laugh, communicate. Hope this helps.

divorce - sbmt

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Don't give up - God answers prayers and changes hearts. I am praying that your husband will decide to stick it out and keep his family together.

I am so sorry for all the hateful responses. How in the WORLD - sm

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did they get you are cold from that sentence you posted? Looks like the trolls are out.

Because... - Her Husband Said That

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I am one of the posters. Her husband pretty much said that's why he's leaving. He apparently gets zippo from her in terms of any love or warmth. Sometimes we actually have to own our own role in bad things that happen in our lives.

You and other hateful people of your same ilk are the reason... - Starzzz

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why organized religion is failing today. I am so glad that I have a personal relationship with a compassionate, loving God. Alex asked for prayers for herself and her family and all you gave her was judgment. SHAME ON YOU!

Alex, I hope you feel the grace of God as you and your family are going through these trying times. I would suggest a nondenominational church where you can find compassionate people to work and pray with you and your husband. Best wishes. I will be pray for you.

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